Which marriage system will ensure the couple last long forever? This question is always on our minds. So the best marriage system is arranged marriage compare to choosing our own marriage partner. This is because the arrangement married has an outweighed benefit. In Islamic perspective the marriage get a parents blessing and family background of our partner are well known.
In the marriage, the blessing of parents from both couple is needed for to get the blessing from Allah towards their marriage. Nowadays, we can see in our own community so many divorces happened around us. Why that happening? It happened because some couple married without consent from parents and some of them married overseas without their parents’ knowledge. While if our marriage are arranged by parents, at least if anything happened to our marriage there is someone who can help to settle it. And surely our marriage is happy because of the blessing from Allah and the marriage in accordance with Islamic teachings.
Today, we cannot simply trust someone. In a certain cases of marriage some of spouse does not know their partner background, although they are married for 10 years. If our marriage are arrange at least our partner family background are well known. If any problem happened later we know who we should refer to. If we choose our own partner, the probility that we are cheated by the partner are high. Sometimes our partner is never honest to us about their job or family.
After taking all the argument into account, it seems that the marriage arranged is the best system to guarantee our marriage rather than choosing our own marriage partner. And the statement of ‘love is blind’ is true. We need to open our eyes to choose the best for us. And remember that in hadith says “the blessing of Allah depends on blessing of parents”.